How can we stay spiritual?

How can we stay calm and spiritually connected,
When life throws things at you that make you very angry?
Then leaves you with the feeling of immense stress and sadness.
How do you stay connected?..

Can you stay uconnected until you have resolved the situation ( if its resolvable)
Or let it go..
How is that possible, when you havent created the situation, but just dragged into it and then blamed for it..

How do you all stay sane and connected?


I personally find i can still read, i can still do mediumship for others
But on a personal level, I need more!! I feel detached from me.
Its like i am all consumed with a situation rather than consumed in my own stuff.. If that makes sense..
I am desperate to stay connected and allow this thing to pass in its own time and not allow myself to be pre occupied.. I know all the right stuff to do , its just gathering time to do it.

How do you cope with major life stresses and stay connected?